Two months into dating

02-Oct-2016 10:25

Her take: “I went out with a guy I met online who seemed really sweet and charming. A few days later, he texts me to say that he isn't looking for a girlfriend—just casual sex.I felt cheated and hurt.” -Andrea C., 31Expert take: Even if a guy doesn’t say straight out in his profile that he’s only looking for hook-ups, some will offer hints.We need to keep telling ourselves the basic truths of a healthy and truly loving relationship. While you spend time getting to know someone as a friend, you are able to see more clearly whether they are right for you and you for them.

Maybe the relationship isn't right and is destined for nowhere, but you also may have found a keeper, and your actions aren't lining up with your intentions.Judging by the data, we're making out and having sex (shocking, we know), which can actually be a big deal.A 2013 The more we engage in physically intimate behaviors with our partners, from kissing to casual sex, the more likely we are to form meaningful bonds that can lead to the real-deal girlfriend or boyfriend talk.Those who use phrases similar to “hoping to be friends first” are usually looking for fun rather than commitment, says Laurie Davis, founder and CEO of e Flirt Expert, and author of You can also weed out the casual sex seekers by looking at the context around your planned date: Is he willing to set up a date for a week or so later?Meet for coffee or in a place where you can hear each other talk?

Maybe the relationship isn't right and is destined for nowhere, but you also may have found a keeper, and your actions aren't lining up with your intentions.Judging by the data, we're making out and having sex (shocking, we know), which can actually be a big deal.A 2013 The more we engage in physically intimate behaviors with our partners, from kissing to casual sex, the more likely we are to form meaningful bonds that can lead to the real-deal girlfriend or boyfriend talk.Those who use phrases similar to “hoping to be friends first” are usually looking for fun rather than commitment, says Laurie Davis, founder and CEO of e Flirt Expert, and author of You can also weed out the casual sex seekers by looking at the context around your planned date: Is he willing to set up a date for a week or so later?Meet for coffee or in a place where you can hear each other talk?You’re left wondering what went wrong and analyzing (and reanalyzing and reanalyzing) things with your friends. While we’ll never be able to fully understand guys (and we probably wouldn’t want to), you can learn from these moments.